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Little Rohan came home crying because someone in the swimming pool locker room had broken his glasses into pieces and thrown it away.<\/p>\n
Aman came out of the pool and when he went to change, his clothes were missing from the locker. They were found in the toilet.<\/p>\n
Instances such as these are alarming and on the rise in schools and play areas. They leave the parents anxious and worried all the time. Can parents be around all the time guarding their little ones against lurking bullies? Somewhere one has to let go and trust that their child is able to handle the bully on his own.<\/p>\n
According to a survey conducted in 2013, in 150 schools in Mumbai and Thane by the\u00a0Parents\u00a0Teachers Association United\u00a0Forum\u00a0(PTAUF), 70 percent of students experience bullying in school, but only 20 to 40 per cent report it. Seventy percent even admitted to bullying being their pastime.*<\/p>\n
What is Bullying<\/strong><\/p>\n According to Cambridge dictionary “to\u00a0hurt<\/a>\u00a0or\u00a0frighten<\/a>\u00a0someone, often over a\u00a0period<\/a>\u00a0of\u00a0time<\/a>, and often\u00a0forcing<\/a>\u00a0that\u00a0person<\/a>\u00a0to do something they do not\u00a0want<\/a>\u00a0to do”<\/p>\n Types of Bullying<\/strong><\/p>\n Bullying consists of three main participants:<\/strong><\/p>\n 1. Raja is youngest in a family of six and throws tantrums if his needs are not met. He has a short attention span and gets angry and irritated easily. His mother loses her temper easily and whenever there is a conflict with the adult members at home, she takes it out on Raja more than his brother. Raja\u2019s parents are busy and don\u2019t have much time for the children. What more they complain to everyone about their children. Presence of grandparents doesn\u2019t help the cause as they also complain to the parents about Raja\u2019s behavior. Raja likes to torment his classmates and younger children whenever he finds an opportunity. He verbally abuses them and sometimes snatches their lunch and eats it.<\/p>\n \u00a0Raja is a Bully<\/strong><\/p>\n 2. Ankur was a premature baby and was prone to frequent colds. He is small for his age and very sensitive. He is soft spoken and shy and doesn\u2019t make too many friends. He tends to internalize everything and gets upset easily. His mother is over protective of him and his father believes that this molly coddling is only making him weak and wants to toughen him up. Nothing he does seem to please his father. In school, he is run over by everyone practically, but Ankur doesn\u2019t complain for the fear of antagonizing his tormentors.<\/p>\n \u00a0Ankur is a victim<\/strong><\/p>\n 3. Sahil is one of many children in his extended family. His older cousins have always teased him and made him do errands. If he goes complaining to his mother, they threaten to never ever include him in their activities. Sometimes he even gets pushed around or hit by his elder brother who is a part of the \u201cgrown up gang\u201d. Sahil resents all this and takes out his frustration on his classmates in the school. His teacher keeps complaining to his parents which in turn triggers another round of humiliation in front of his older brother and cousins at home.<\/p>\n \u00a0Sahil is a bully victim<\/strong><\/p>\n Dr Arundhati Chavan, professor at SNDT College and president of PTAUF who led the survey, says, “Bullying leaves a lasting mark. Victims may shy away from the crowd and develop an inferiority complex. Repeated bullying may also make them aggressive and prone to lashing out.”**<\/p>\n What makes a bully? <\/u><\/p>\n Who is the potential victim for bullying<\/u><\/p>\n How do I find out if my child is a \u2018Bully\u2019<\/strong><\/p>\n Parents would like to believe that their child can never be a bully. This kind of ostrich behavior only aggravates the situation. It\u2019s important to interact with your children and find out more about their life outside home. If there are indications in your child\u2019s behavior that make you uncomfortable like being defiant, bossing over younger sibling or temper tantrums it\u2019s better to ask the following questions. Not all boys are bullies, but bullying is more common among boys. \ud83d\ude41<\/p>\n Questions you need to ask to identify if your child is involved in bullying<\/u><\/strong><\/p>\n How do I find out if my child is a victim?<\/u><\/strong><\/p>\n Pay special attention if your child has<\/u><\/strong><\/p>\n We all have been victims of some amount of bullying in our growing up years. Most of us managed well and left the troubling experiences behind. Bullying need not be a cause of stress for parents. Here is what you can do.<\/p>\n Images courtesy: Pixabay.com<\/p>\n *, **Times of India April 13, 2013<\/p>\n <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Little Rohan came home crying because someone in the swimming pool locker room had broken his glasses into pieces and thrown it away. Aman came out of the pool and when he went to change, his clothes were missing from the locker. They were found in the toilet. 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